We clearly have had different experiences of marriage.
This is relevant, no need to look for excuses to get defensive.
Not defensive. Just aware this is very off-topic and supposed to be getting something constructive done. Unwilling to open a can of worms that - like bitcoin - is likely to be pre-settled in a person's mind rather than liable to be changed by discussion (or, as it happens, evidence - there's plenty of academic studies on it).
Since you asked, I'm in my late 30s and she's 3.5 years older than me.
For the rest of us, it doesn't take an academic study to figure out that getting married today is about the most self-destructive thing a man could do.




